Speak Their Names

Today, in the Christian calendar, is All Souls Day. 

Not to be confused with yesterday's observance of All Saints Day, a time to celebrate those who have lived such exemplary lives as to warrant beatification, All Souls Day is a collective moment of grief and remembrance for those who are no longer. 

One of the things I've noticed since becoming a minister is how very uncomfortable most of us are with death. So much so that after someone dies we often stop talking about them, for fear this reminder will pull at the tentative bandage that covers the wound. Out of a misdirected sense of kindness, we hold our tongues. And in doing so, leave the bereft to suffer alone.

The memories of those who have died are given life by us. So speak the names of those you have lost. Celebrate their lives. Appreciate how you have been changed by them. 

And as you move forward, vow to live your life in such a way that those who will remember you will do so with both admiration and fondness.

“Death ends a life, not a relationship.” 
― Mitch Albom, Tuesdays with Morrie